SHE HEARD HER MOTHER SAY, “YOU’RE UGLY AND YOU HAVE A BIG NOSE,” EVERY DAY
Jennifer Aniston, best known for her iconic role in Friends, has also graced the big screen in movies like We’re the Millers and Horrible Bosses.
However, her childhood with her mother, actress Nancy Dow, was far from easy. Jennifer endured constant correction and trauma during her upbringing, leading to long-lasting emotional scars. Her mother struggled as a single parent, and their relationship was strained.
Her mother’s daily critique was particularly damaging, as she frequently told Jennifer that she was “ugly” and had a “big nose.” This persistent criticism took a toll on Jennifer’s self-confidence and self-esteem. Despite sharing a home with her mother, Jennifer couldn’t help but feel that she didn’t meet her mother’s standards of beauty.
Jennifer’s parents had a troubled marriage that ultimately ended in divorce. She chose to stay with her mother after the separation. Her father, with whom she had a strained relationship, wasn’t a substantial presence in her life. In fact, Jennifer’s mother encouraged her to accept criticism silently.
Once, when Jennifer protested her mother’s reprimand, her mother laughed in her face, driving home the message that she should endure criticism without resistance.
Adding to her difficulties, Jennifer also had to cope with dyslexia, a learning disability that significantly impacts reading, writing, and spelling abilities, leading to significant academic challenges.
Despite the immense pressure and criticism, Jennifer gradually realized that she wasn’t as flawed as her mother had led her to believe. Her self-esteem received a boost when she landed her first Hollywood role, and she underwent a nose job.
However, her mother continued to undermine her success. During the height of her fame on “Friends,” her mother gave interviews publicly criticizing her, which deeply hurt Jennifer.
In response, Jennifer made a firm decision to cut off contact with her mother. She even skipped her own wedding to Brad Pitt to avoid her mother’s presence. For 15 years, they didn’t speak to each other.
After years of therapy to address her traumatic childhood, Jennifer experienced a profound realization. She came to understand that her mother’s harsh criticisms and reprimands were driven by love and a desire for her daughter to succeed. Her mother’s intention wasn’t to be cruel but to push Jennifer to become the best version of herself.
Jennifer Aniston attributed her resilience and the person she has become to her upbringing, stating, “My mother spoke to me in this way because she loved me and wanted the best for me. She didn’t mean to be cruel; she just wasn’t aware that the suffering she was giving me would only end after years of therapy.”